Hello Again

Floral Midi Skirt1

Floral Midi Skirt4

Floral Midi Skirt2

Floral Midi Skirt3

Tulip Necklace

Hello, it’s been awhile! I’ve been thinking about how to write this post for a while now and I’ve been a little (ok, a lot) stumped. Should I just jump back into writing blog posts, like I haven’t been MIA for five months, or should I explain why I took the time off? Ultimately, I decided to do the latter. I named this blog Truly, Tamara because I wanted this to be a space where I could share my authentic self and hopefully encourage others to do the same. If I didn’t explain my absence I wouldn’t be living up to that.

Blogging is hard. I don’t mean the actual act of blogging (although that’s not super easy either), I mean the self inflicted pressure it put on me to be perfect (or at least appear perfect). Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I ever did appear perfect. In fact I know I was far from it, and that was the problem. I would constantly look at other blogs and Instagram feeds and I’m ashamed to say, would get caught up in the ugly comparison trap. I didn’t feel like I was ever going to live up to all of those other beautiful blogs I would read and it was really effecting me in a bad way. I was having a hard time being happy for other people’s success, because I was jealous of what they had and what I thought I would never live up to. It’s shameful, I know, but I just couldn’t shake it! I hated feeling that way and it was taking the joy out of blogging and creating away from me. So after seeking advice, I decided to take some time off to get myself together and figure out if this is something that truly makes me happy. And you know what? I missed it. I missed the creative outlet it gives me and the community that it can provide. I just needed to take a step back and figure out what I wanted my focus to be and why I was doing it.

So here I am, basically starting over. The primary focus will still be on personal style, because that’s what I love and what allows me to express myself creatively, but I want it to be about more than that. I’ve come a long way and learned a lot in the last five months, but I still have a long way to go. I don’t have it all figured out yet, I just know that I want this to be a safe space to talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly. A space to talk about successes and struggles, a place where I can be my true self and be honest when I don’t have it all together. I hope you will be a part of that too. I hope we can create a community to share, support and celebrate each other. And most importantly, love each other in spite of our brokenness.

Truly,

Tamara

Outfit Details….Skirt/from Avenle, Shirt/from Target, Necklace c/o Avenle, Shoes/thrifted, Wristlet/from Forever 21 (old)

*Photos taken by Aaron, edited by me

Truly, Tamara

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  • Tamara! I know you may not know me from a hill of beans ( what does that mean anyway!) but I enjoyed your posts, and your style. I understand completely what you are saying,at times we questions, is this truly important, is this fullfilling ? I think sometimes one does need to take time for themselves. Glad to see you are back, and your style is lovely!!! I adore this skirt, I am a big floral girl and those dainty yellow cap shoes are perfect with it!

    I would love to you to join in my Turning Heads Tuesday link up if you like, tomorrow. Only if you feel likeit!
    xxjess
    http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

    • Of course I remember you, Jess! Thank you so much, that really means a lot. I’m glad to be back! :) I will definitely check out your link up tomorrow. Thank you for telling me about it.

  • Thanks for linking up with Turning Heads Tuesday!

    jess xx

    http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

  • Alena Elena

    Beautiful skirt and necklace!

    Alena & http://garmentsspeech.blogspot.com

  • Sydney Fashion Hunter

    Love your skirt! Found your blog through Still Being Molly. I host a fashion link up every Wednesday (still live) so stop by if you get a chance :)

    http://www.sydneyfashionhunter.com/

    • Thank you! I’ll be sure to check out your link up. :)

  • Serli N.

    Tamara, I can relate to your feelings. You know sometimes it takes me a few hours to perfect and finalize my words? It’s not easy! Haha. I also took a hiatus from blogging for a few months, due to a number of reasons (time, priorities, etc.) but now when I think about it, a sense of discouragement on the back of my mind could have contributed to my hiatus as well. The feeling of not being able to “keep up” with other bloggers; their posts just seem so perfect all the time! I don’t fully discuss all aspects of my life in my blog posts, after all I created my blog with intentions of sharing my outfits/fashion. I do say a few things about what I’ve been up to generally, but my main focus stays on my outfits. But when reading other blogger’s posts, I can’t help but feel that words just seem to come so naturally to them, or that it’s so easy for them to discuss aspects of their lives in detail. I know it only SEEMS that way, but sometimes I too get discouraged and caught in the “comparison trap”. But after my hiatus, I’ve realized we are all different and provide something unique to the community. I’m glad you now feel like your blog is a safe place to discuss not just the good, but the struggles in life too. It’s important to be YOU, after all, it’s YOUR blog. And life isn’t perfect. In response to your comment on my blog post, you should totally check out Bernie Dexter dresses! You can usually find them on eBay (sold by Bernie herself!) for a lot cheaper :). I’m also super excited to see a fellow Christian interested in fashion! It’s so nice to be able to relate in that way. Now that I think of it, we have more than just a few things in common! Haha. Here’s a relevant verse: “Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done, and won’t need to compare himself with someone else.” Galatians 6:4 TLB. God bless, and keep on being you!

    xo, Serli
    http://www.lesoleilchic.blogspot.com

    • It always takes me forever to write a blog post because I’m such a perfectionist. I actually just recently read a book that really helped me with this. Its called “Make It Happen” by Lara Casey. In it she talks about the idea of progress, not perfection and it really hit home with me. You should check it out. I totally understand the feeling of “keeping up” with other bloggers, but I just keep trying to remember that everyone has their own path and that God has a different plan for each of us. It’s hard sometimes though and it’s nice to know we aren’t in it alone. I’m so happy that we have connected again and to call you friend even though we’ve never met! The Internet is a weird and wonderful like that ;). Lol. Thank you for sharing that verse. It’s something I really needed to read.

      • Serli N.

        I’m glad the verse was helpful :), and I will definitely check out that book! Sounds like something I need to read as well! I’m also really happy we are able to connect through blogging. Yay for the internet! xo