Be Brave

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Brave. I feel like it is a word I have been reading and hearing a lot lately (insert Sara Bareilles song here). I don’t know if being brave is just a popular and trendy subject matter right now, or if I am just noticing it because it’s something I’ve needed to hear. Either way, I think it is something worth talking about, for me anyway. But I can’t help thinking that this is true for women and girls in general. As much as I hate to admit it, I have always been a fearful person. It’s one of the things I dislike most about myself and that I still battle daily. Combine that with my perfectionist tendency’s and well, it’s a wonder I even get out of bed in the morning. Ok, maybe that’s a little dramatic, but I have a real fear of failure and I don’t know where it comes from. I mean, I come from a super loving family who supported anything I ever wanted to do. Maybe it’s society and it’s lower expectations for girls in general (although, thank goodness that is changing). Whatever the reason, over the years that fear has kept me from doing so many things, and If I think about it too much it makes me really sad. From the time I was 7 or 8 years old until I was a young adult, I rode horses and competed in horse shows. I loved horses (and still do) and had such a passion for riding, but I quit and threw it all away because of my fears. I know you aren’t supposed to have regrets and that things happen for a reason, but I can’t help but regret that. Even as an adult my fears have kept me from doing many things, because of them I almost didn’t even start this blog. I have been reading blogs for years and I have loved fashion since I can remember. For the last two years I have had this voice in my head telling me that I should be writing a personal style blog, and expressing myself creatively, but I didn’t listen (until 2 months ago). I was way too caught up in the thoughts in my head about what could go wrong. What if my blog doesn’t look creative or professional enough? What if I don’t have anything worthwhile to say? What if my pictures aren’t good enough? What if I’m too old? What if everyone hates it? What if I am not good enough? And that’s really just it, I was so scared that I wasn’t good enough and I hadn’t even tried! How stupid is that?! But I do that all the time, I talk myself out of things before I even try. Well, I’m sick of it and I’m not going to stand for it anymore! So starting this blog is the first step in the right direction. I am going to be brave and create something no matter how imperfect it may be. I am going to put myself out there and give myself the chance to fail, because at least that means I tried. To most of you, I’m sure it seems like no big deal to start a blog, but this is a huge leap for me and I’m so glad I took it. I have already been blessed in many ways and I hope that I can encourage anyone out there who want’s to take a leap (doing whatever their heart desires) to just jump. You can do so much more than you give yourself credit for and it’s not so scary once you do. Who knows, I might just start riding horses again too ;).

I bought this t-shirt from Zooey Magazine back in the winter when they were promoting their Brave Movement to help inspire women to go for their dreams. It’s a simple shirt with a powerful message, so when I decided to write this blog post I knew exactly what to wear. I styled it with this pencil skirt from Old Navy that I featured in my Wednesday’s Love List a few weeks ago. I must admit that for me, wearing a pencil skirt is kind of an act of bravery in itself since I have… ahem……a little junk in the trunk as they say ;). It’s not a silhouette that I normally wear, but I love it! I’m so glad that I took the chance and bought it. It is a nice thick material that provides a lot of stretch and sits high on your waist. I’m looking forward to styling it many different ways.

I know this post was kind of a long one, so if you hung in there, thank you. Do you deal with fear? If so, what are some ways you overcome that fear? I would love to hear your story. I still have a long way to go.

Truly,

Tamara

Outfit details….T-shirt/from Zooey Magazine, Skirt/from Old Navy, Shoes/from Lotta from Stockholm, Headband/from Moxie Boutique

*Photos taken by Aaron, edited by me

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  • Love this mix of vintage and modern, stunning :)

    Edita
    http://www.pret-a-reporter.co.uk

  • Truly, Tamara

    Thank you so much, Edita!

  • So cute and casual, love it!

    — Michelle | http://www.MXPSTYLE.com

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thanks, Michelle!

  • Tamara,

    I wish I could shout this whole comment! What you wrote rings so true to me!! I am so glad that you are stepping out in spite of your fear. I am on the same journey.

    I am learning that the key is to expect failure, maybe even many failures, mistakes and missteps on the road to success (however we define success). If you don’t try then you’ve already failed. The way I see it I have nothing to lose. If I don’t try this year, then next year it’s guaranteed I’ll be in the same place and another year older.

    Keep learning, keep trying, keep putting stuff out in the world. You never know what’s going to happen…

    And yes, you should start riding again.

    AND this is my favorite look on you so far precisely BECAUSE of your, as you say,”junk in the trunk”. It shows off your figure beautifully. Don’t hide it!
    I am working hard to add some “junk to my trunk”–so be proud of what you’ve got:)

    xoxo to you!

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you so much, Joy! I’m so glad this resonated with you and that you have taken the leap also. Like you said, what’s the worst that can happen? I certainly don’t want to be stuck in the same place next year. This is definitely the season to be brave :).

      You can have some of my “junk in the trunk” if you want. I think I have a little too much ;). Ha ha!

  • Mel

    Very cute outfit! Love your hair!
    ~Mel

    http://girlandthepolkadot.blogspot.com/

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you, Mel! :)

  • Love this tee! And yes, taking the leap is usually worth it! Congrats on following your heart!

    Heidi D.
    http://www.wishesandreality.com

    • Truly, Tamara

      Aww thank you, Heidi!

  • I think wearing what you want is definitely an act of bravery, I run into that when I find myself wanting to wear something shorter (I live in a very conservative area) or even just sweats to school or something. ha it definitely takes bravery to listen to yourself instead of just thinking about what everyone else thinks. Easier said than done of course :) but good job for wearing the skirt! It looks really really cute on you by the way.

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you so much, Haylee! I couldn’t agree more. Thank you for visiting :).

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thanks, Nora! They are one of my favorite pairs ;).

  • Super cute outfit!! Love your Tee!!
    xo, Jane
    http://www.fitfabfunmom.com

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you, Jane!

  • I love your casual style! And your smile is total sunshine!

    • Truly, Tamara

      Aww thank you so much, Sydney! That is so sweet! Thanks for stopping by :).

  • What a great turquoise color on you!
    Adorable
    xoxo

    http://loveyenrose.blogspot.com

  • Truly, Tamara

    Thank you so much, it’s one of my favorite colors. Thanks for visiting! :)

  • I love how you’ve matched your headband with the lettering on the t-shirt. And the concept of being brave and going for your dreams really resonates with me. Thank you for this lovely post! :)

    Owl Girl | A London lifestyle blog

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you so much, Candy! I’m sure it’s something a lot of women and girls struggle with. It’s nice to know we’re not alone, isn’t it?

  • M

    Love the outfit, especially the matching of the headband and the shirt!

    http://www.madeinmauve.com

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thank you! :)

  • Love your graphic teeā€¦ and that song! My favorite!

    I’d love if you stopped by my blog http://www.folio-v.com :)

    • Truly, Tamara

      Thanks, Victoria! I love that song to ;). I will definitely check out your blog. Thanks for visiting.

  • Lea

    So glad you found and commented on my blog so I could find you! I can relate to your fear of failure and perfection paralysis. It is a constant battle for me too.

    Also thank you for showing me a cute way to wear a bandana with short hair. I just can’t seem to make it work but I’m going to give this look a try.

    PS. Definitely get back on the horse. This is the place I find the most calm and serenity. There is a great shore to shore trail ride in MI that you MUST go on. Find a horse and go.

    Lea

    • Truly, Tamara

      Aww thank you so much, Lea! I’m glad we found each other! :) It’s so nice to know that we are not alone and that other people have similar struggles.

      Your hair is so cute and I’m sure a bandana would look adorable on you! You have to give it a try and post it on your blog :). I would love to see.

      I really do want to start rinding again one day. I miss it so much, but time and money always seem to be an issue. One day I will though. Do you ride?

      Thank you again for your sweet words! They really made my night! :).

      • Lea

        Yes, I ride. I have a Paint horse, Diesel and am lucky to also have clients that I give lessons to or help to train their horses. I used to live in MI so I’m sure you can find some places for lessons depending on where you are in the state. Don’t let time or money stop you. Sometimes you can offer to help clean or take care of the horses in exchange for lessons. Or you can look into half leasing which lowers costs too!

        Proud of you for taking the step into blogging. I’ve been doing it for a little over 2 years now but I still have doubts about being good enough. Sigh. It’s hard to be a girl :)

        • Truly, Tamara

          What a small world! Where in Michigan did you live? I’m in the Detroit area. There are a few barns not too far from me. I actually tried to get back into it a few years ago, but it just didn’t work out. I leased a horse for years.

          That’s so funny that your horses name is Diesel, because I have a dog named Diesel (made even funnier by the fact that he is a little white Maltese)!

          I’m glad I started blogging too, I’m really loving it so far! It’s a lot of work though. Two years makes you an expert compared to me. Now I know who to come to with all my blogging questions ;). It is definitely hard being a girl, but I love it!

          • Lea

            Happy to help with any blogging questions. I’m no expert but I have figured out many o’ things over the years.

            I used to live in Walled Lake, then Mt. Clemens, then East Lansing and finally Grand Rapids. I still have family and friends there so the next time I come for a visit we can grab a cup of coffee or wine or something!

  • Truly, Tamara

    That would be awesome, Lea!